Why I'm confident 'he's the one'

I've read so many articles with a similar title as this, hoping to grow and shed some light on a new perspective in the relationship realm. Truth is, it always takes me about 20 seconds to realize how superficial, selfish, and just plain ridiculous the post usually is. They all sound a little like this:

"If he calls you beautiful every day he's the one. If you're comfortable around him without makeup on he's the one. If you can wear sweats around him he's the one."

Okay, I must stop myself. I'm getting irritated just writing this.

Let me tell you how I know he's the one. It's simple.

My confidence is built upon two truths:

1) God is a mystery.

You're probably wondering "how in the world is this relevant?" Well, if you were to ask me how Ian and I became what we are now, I wouldn't be able to tell you every detail. Sure, I could recall some of the talks we had throughout our process of moving forward, and maybe a few (or hundreds) of awkward moments we had together, but I can't lay out this perfect start-to-finish story. And I find such beauty in that. Trying to remember how everything played out is such a blur--a mystery. So much so, that neither Ian or I can take credit for anything that happened, because we don't really know how it happened. Our relationship is of God because it glorifies God; and our relationship glorifies God because it's of God. Are you picking up what I'm throwing down?

2) He's not a God of confusion.

This one is pretty self-explanatory. First Corinthians 14:33 says, "For God is not a God of disorder but of peace…" Not once have I second guessed or questioned my relationship. I've been in situations where my heart is not at peace toward a certain guy, and I've been confused to the point of tears. This is not of God. And I'm not going to tell you that he wants you to be happy…He wants you to be holy. 

To wrap it up, I'll say two more things. First, I want to recognize that in no way do I have this 'relationship thing' figured out, and am nowhere near reaching perfection. There's something to work at every single day. So just because I'm confident in my relationship, doesn't mean we've reached the top. Second, the two truths I listed will not be the same for everyone. You may very well be able to recall every detail of your relationship, and you might have had some very tough circumstances come up in your relationship that caused confusion. I'm not saying my two truths are the only two truths and if you don't line up with them then you're wrong. So please know my heart and my intentions for writing this. This is my story, not yours.

P.S. can we just end all those superficial blogs? Sweet